Romantic or plutonic, sibling or spouse, we have all had a long distance relationship. Our friends go to uni, our brothers or sisters move away to their questionable partner’s abode or perhaps your parents have parted ways. Bumps in the road are a part of life but it doesn’t always make them easier, and it certainly doesn’t make them more enjoyable. Nonetheless, here is a list of the pros and cons of long distance relationships.
- You appreciate the time you do spend together
Whether it be a little or a lot, time together is a pretty awesome thing when you miss that particular human for so long. The distance can really make the heart grow fonder, make time for each other and when you are together, make it count.
- You get to travel to different places
Meet their friends, have them meet your friends, see their favourite places in their new place, show them your go-to adventure spots in your stomping grounds. Find new surroundings together- embrace the situation you have been given and roll with it. It might be difficult but trainspotting with your beau can be fun.
- You get the opportunity to make new friends with those who are close to your partner
Although briefly touched upon, you are given a chance to get closer to those who happen to spend more time with your partner at present – it can be very useful for you to utilise second opinions and form bonds with people who you will almost certainly get on with. Use the tools you have been given to strengthen the relationships with the people close to the person you love – a night at the pub can go a long way.
- You have the whole bed to yourself
Sometimes we all need a good old starfish with a bag of caramel nibbles after the sheets have been changed watching a period drama. Whether you have established your sleeping pattern together or not, sleeping alone is very different from sleeping next to someone you love.
- The toilet seat stays down – no more sharing bathrooms
Don’t fight me on this one, you know it’s true.
- You only have to cook for one
Sometimes you cook just enough pasta for both you, and sometimes you cook enough for a small army or housing estate. Learn how to cook for just you. Try new things, make old recipes, mash things together, like them, hate them. Try and be a little more adult.
- The time you do spend together can be short
Sometimes you watch the person you love walk out of the door it’s too far away. You always need an extra hour, an extra kiss or a second look. You love them, after all. Spending time away from them can sometimes feel really unfair and sometimes, yes, it is. Try to find solace in the fact that everything happens for a reason and that everything will be okay, even if it feels like it won’t right now.
- Travel can be expensive
Trains, railcards, busses, coaches, petrol – it all adds up. There is nothing more frustrating than having to turn down opportunities due to money issues or the need to budget, especially when it involves a reunion with a loved one. Try and utilise every resource you have – carpool, get group railcards, fly. If there is a will, there is almost always a way.
- You could become jealous of the time your partner gets to spend with others
You’re only human, and it is natural. You just need to remember that your partner cannot realistically be with you 24/7 and in fact, if they were, it would be rather unhealthy. You are allowed, and very much entitled, to lead separate lives from each other, but still love one another. It’s adult and it’s healthy – but so is jealousy.
- You have the whole bed to yourself
Although also listed as a pro, it’s nice to have someone reach for you in their sleep or mumble for you when you get up for the bathroom. It’s nice to be longed for, even in sleep.
- You never have anyone to tidy up after
His stray socks may annoy you, her washing up may drive you crazy – but it’s odd to observe the absence of things you grow so accustomed to experiencing – a lack of presence can be as noticeable as moving a piece of furniture that you keep stubbing your toe on. Try to pay attention to them, even if sometimes you roll your eyes before you laugh.
- You have no one to cook for
You argued about getting the takeaway, you argued about not getting the takeaway, but you happily cooked for them anyway and gave them the bigger portion size as you always do, just because you know they like it. Bond over little things, be silly about things the elderly would roll their eyes at.
Sometimes things are just meant to be and sometimes things just don’t work out. Life happens and change is inevitable. Be patient with your partner, be open to changes, go with your heart. Change is hard, but you are stronger than the currents of stupid swirling in the seas of normal.