Ah Generation Z. There’s nothing like the sweet smell of shame and disgust at being ignored and treated as if you mean absolutely nothing. You are now arguably more unsure of yourself/ self-significance and fit with enough qualities to make anyone into an overthinker as well as a member of social media FBI. We live in a time when feelings are almost shameful, decorum is rare and oh heavens above it is rare to find commitment. No one can deny, that being ghosted utterly sucks. Everyone has done and everyone has been a victim of it.
1. Never beg for anyone’s attention – try the 3-day rule; if he doesn’t message you back within 3 days then wave that boy goodbye. Friend or foe, fuckboy or friends with benefits, if they do not message you then it is simply because they do not want to. If someone wants to make time for you then they will, it really is that simple. Sometimes people lose track, things get in the way because life happens and you’re an adult – you get sad, you can be busy! People you love and love you mutually will remain by your side no matter what waves rock the deck.
2. Acknowledge that it hurts and accept the emotions you feel – You might not even care for the ghost-er, or even know them that well at all but no one likes being ignored. Whether you have been misled, exposed or just a little confused it is okay to feel a bit let down that you had hopes for a potential relationship or friendship. In any of these situations, the rupture of the potential and of your own good feelings may hurt more than the loss of the actual person. That’s okay. It still hurts.
2. Your feelings are valid – what you’re feeling is okay and it’s a perfectly healthy emotion, I don’t know anyone who actually enjoys being ignored – it’s about as frustrating as thinking of a better comeback after the argument has finished.
3. Discuss it, my friends – Talk therapy works. It might be uncomfortable, but the reality is, no matter how hard it may be, unburdening that little walnut between your ears can help.
4. Take care of your mind and your body – in this case, you are what you eat, sleep is your best friend and sweating out your frustration can all aid in managing types of pain, including emotional and psychological. Meditation can also be your best friend, practising mindfulness will help to stop your negative mental habits before they even begin.
5. Learn to let it go – sometimes you just have to shut up and get over things. He or she doesn’t matter in the grand scheme of things, there is a world full of people out there who will like your face when you cry and the way you wrinkle your nose when you concentrate. Let their actions outshine their words because actions are always a reflection of interest. Remember that whatever happened and however raw it was, you will feel better when that ghost no longer haunts you anymore. Your demons are only as red-faced as you allow them to be.
Do not settle. Do not compromise your happiness.