We’ve all been through it. High school was a literal game of who had done ‘it’, how many times and with who. Did anything gross happen? Was she a slut? Was he any good? Blah blah blah.
I remember thinking about how much it mattered – and how even though a couple of pointless sex education classes, I felt no more prepared for being sexually active.
- Always, ALWAYS be safe.
Take your contraception. Get tested. Make sure it’s consensual. Discuss precautions. Be sensible. Set boundaries. Have fun!
- Don’t do anything you’re not comfortable with
You don’t need to impress anybody – whether it is your first or five hundredth time having sex, you need to feel secure in the situation you are entering.
- It’s okay to have sex on the first date
If you have consent, you are safe and you have set boundaries then go for it. As long as you’re both into it then why the hell not?
- Just because someone has sex with you doesn’t mean they want to be with you.
Casual sex can be an amazing thing, but communication is very essential. Outline what you want and what you don’t want – then be free to explore what you like with different people.
- It is okay to enjoy sex
Do not allow yourself to be told that you, as an individual, cannot enjoy sex. Whether you have sex with the same person or different people you are allowed to find pleasure in it. As long as you’re safe and you’re not hurting anybody then come what may – the world is your oyster!
Forget the walk of shame it is time for the stride of pride.
Hannah Witton’s post touching on similar points – https://hannahwitton.com/my-5-rules-for-casual-sex/