It’s time to give yourself permission to do things. I don’t mean things like leave the dishes out or particularly bad or naughty or things that are frowned upon, I more mean things that leave you without feelings of guilt, sadness, or another grey cloud with selfish undertones. Anybody who gets upset, tired or angry when you say “no” or “maybe not today” doesn’t have your best interest at heart. You always have the right to feel at peace with the decisions you make, however small they might be.
Manipulators will walk throughout your life every day – they can be across your dinner table, or on the end of a phone, friend or family or friend not so much, manipulators are difficult to escape.
Sometimes “no” is, in fact, the kindest word. In life, there are often many things we feel, as humans, we need to do – be decent, be kind, be polite etc. However, the fact of the matter is we don’t really have to do these things – just because you are taught to behave, act or speak a certain way doesn’t necessarily mean that you should. When you are able to tell the difference between what should be done and what can be done, it is one of the biggest milestones you can achieve.
Silence isn’t always agreement. Sometimes people no longer argue because they no longer care or just don’t want anything more to do with it.
Giving in, subsiding or dismissing can sometimes be easier than raising your head and planting your feet. Develop a spine, say no to the newest round of head games and or emotional blackmail that is attempted to be swept under the rug. A lack of acceptance can be harassment, know when to break free of toxic forms of dominance. Know that getting the scissors out, metaphorically, of course, is not selfish or wrong. Yes, they may well tell you as such but as always that does not mean they are right.
Maybe you don’t think about some things that you should, and perhaps you don’t know things that you should but perhaps, for once, maybe that’s okay.