Something my Dad taught me when I was small is that it’s okay to have strong emotions. Every day in this world there will be people who you struggle with, love, hate, etc. Some will make you want to grind your teeth to little stumps, some alternatively will make you want to eat everything in your freezer and all of co-op biscuit aisle.
Whether you are sad, angry, happy or even if you just feel a little weird, you are still attached to that person in some way. Every break up I have ever had was both incredibly brutal and upsetting. I’ve had my dad council me through each one with patience that was undeserved by me and many others (that man should have been a counsellor as we would all be better for it – he is wise beyond his years and truly one of the most humble people I know).
One valuable lesson I have learnt from my dad, after every heartbreak and throughout everyday life, is that whatever feeling you experience and whoever you experience it, it is still a feeling. Hate is a feeling. Love is a feeling. Jealously is a feeling. You can say that you are over something until you are blue in the face, but if you feel the bubbles of regret or the waves of sadness then that love bug is sadly still there to stay.
Indifference is the true meaning of closure and being ‘over it’. Sometimes you just have to grow up, even though every single cell of your being wants you to grow back down again.
“He loved me. He loved me, but he doesn’t love me anymore, and it’s not the end of the world.”